Is that Optima a hybrid sort of battery? It has both CCA and Ah ratings, and it isn't a very high Ah rating.
I'd suggest that one of the reasons you are killing batteries is they are being discharged and charged too often and too deep. I have an N70 Century deep cycle that is 105Ah, and with about 3-3.5A of Engel 38L fridge running off it I do not get enough charge from 30min drive twice a day to keep the battery charged, and a fridge only runs maybe 10-20% of the time. If you have 4Amps continuous then you need 96Ah for a 24 hour period.
I added 110W of solar panel, not because I particularly desired 110W but it fitted perfectly between the racks on the Hilux's canopy roof racks. It is only a cheap one but has worked flawlessly so far:
https://www.4wdsupacentre.com.au/advent ... gL4CPD_BwE. By the Victron unit (via the Bluetooth connection where I can look at solar delivery and load consumption) it delivers more than enough to both keep the aux battery in float and run the fridge. So 220W should do the job for you. Although I still reckon the Ah rating on your battery might be a bit on the small side, when it dies next I'd try to go to something around 105Ah or whatever you can fit close to that. I find I have to add maybe 40-50cc of demin water to the Century battery every 2-3months as the continuous charge of the battery from solar does evaporate it a bit more than normal, but it is like $3 for 4 litres at Woolies or Coles.
The Ctek may well do what you want if you use it as a simple dual battery setup, I only had a quick look at it. You may have to try it and see how it behaves with a separate solar regulator. What I have found with the Project unit is it monitors the voltage on the starting battery, so when I'm driving it parallels the batteries. When I turn the car off the solar regulator is putting charge voltage and decent charge current into both batteries, so the voltage appearing at the starting battery keeps the two batteries paralleled. Thus both batteries are charged and then kept at float by the solar regulator. If the sun goes away and the fridge running pulls the batteries below 12.5V then the Projecta unit separates them. It isn't meant to work that way but it does, and I get the benefit that the starting battery gets a full charge whilst the solar is active too. If I don't want them paralleled then I have a switch that turns the Projecta off and it stays off then until the car is started again.